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 November, 2013


Dress For Success…..Say What?????

Dress for success? Really? pregnant-business-woman

This is a website about pregnancy and babies…not job advancement or interviews!!!

Yes! Really!

The following is from an article originally presented by VBAC Facts at

This reads like the old “Dress For Success” books. Go ahead. Take a look…

And it does not just apply to VBACs but really any medical situation.

Want a VBAC? Ask your care provider these questions.

“Go to your consultations like you would a job interview.  You are not hanging out with your girlfriends.  You want the care provider to perceive you as an intelligent, thorough, and reasonable woman who has done her homework, collected all the info, and would really appreciate the opportunity to VBAC/VBAMC.  Trust is fundamental here and flows both ways. If you can make a human connection with the care provider, then all the better.  Humor is an excellent way to do this.

  • Wear your most professional looking clothes.
  • Get a babysitter for your younger kids if possible so you are not distracted.
  • Bring your medical records and operative reports from your prior cesarean(s).
  • Read, be familiar with, and bring a copy of the 2010 ACOG VBAC guidelines.
  • Google the care provider, their practice, and the hospital/birth center and note any special awards or recognition they have received.  Bring this up in a complimentary way during your appointment.

Remember, a lot of care providers are concerned about being sued, so they are sizing you up as much as you are them. They want to know that you understand the risks and benefits of your options and that you have realistic expectations.  Be sure that you don’t repeat birth myths while speaking to them as that will reflect poorly on you.

Once you connect with them on a human level, and they see that you are an educated, rationale, and reasonable woman, then you can determine how willing they are to negotiate on some of their terms (if necessary.)  For example, if they require moms to stay in bed during the entire labor, ask if their hospital offers telemetry units (wireless fetal monitoring).  Some hospitals even have them in a tube top so they don’t move around as much and are less noticeable to moms.

It’s very important to not come across as angry or argumentative, because that decreases the likelihood that they will attend you.  Express your frustration, anger, and pain with support groups online.”


Here’s the sad part…I think this is true in most cases. If you wish to own your birth experience when having a doctor and a conservative birthing site, I think this is true all too often.

I hate like anything to say this, but there it is.


When dealing with those care providers who “dress for success” in their business clothes and white lab coats and then introduce themselves as Dr. So-and-So but address you by your first name…….. well, they are probably going to respond to you as more of an equal rather than as an over tired, uncomfortable momma-in-waiting; as more as an intelligent, educated human rather than as I’m-sacred-to-death-of-this-pregnancy-and-birth female….if you are more like them.

And that is why the entire concept of “Dress For Success” was so popular, and successful.


Does that make you feel comfortable? Is this how you wish to feel while2ab you are laboring? Do you think you should have to be dressed in a certain way, speak in a certain way, and act in a certain way…just to feel comfortable with the person you are paying to help your child enter the world?

If your answer is no….then perhaps you should do something about it.


I leave you, for now, with another quote…

“If visiting your care provider doesn’t make you feel encouraged and supported, you won’t have that in labor either. Period.”

                                                                                      ~ BirthHerWay