“The best-laid plans of mice and men oft go astray.”


Things can go wrong even though you have carefully planned what you are going to do, as Robert Burns’ poem “To a Mouse” reflects in his words,  “The best-laid plans of mice and men oft go astray.
This, unfortunately, is true in birth as well. Although a cesarean birth was not in her original plans, just look at this beautiful new family!

  If this must happen to you…ask for the “Friendly Cesarean”.


Most women do not wish to have a cesarean but sometimes it is necessary.
When this happens, a woman can still have choices. She can choose to have a “Friendly Cesarean” with the help of her care provider and hospital personnel.
The following is the story of one woman who not to long ago had a “Friendly Cesarean”!

Hello Kenny.. You are welcome to share my story with anyone you like.

My birth experience was very positive but it took a partnership between us and Women’s Hospital.

During my Cesarean everyone around me was very considerate and encouraging. They even had a mirror there so I was able to see my baby when he was delivered right from my belly. After which they handed him to me and helped me remove my robe. My husband and I were then able to hold him and the nurse was kind enough to make a makeshift tent over our heads so the operating room lights wouldn’t bother or deter my son from opening his eyes. We spent close to 15 minutes like this and it was wonderful.

I was taken to the recovery room after and my son was brought to me within a few minutes.

One of the things we made sure to request was that my husband be with our son whenever he had to be taken away from me. Luckily , with the exception of a couple of times, the hospital was able to help us make this happen.

My son stayed with me the entire time from there on out and I even got to give him his first bath. We requested for the staff not to do this immediately after birth and for me to be involve when it happened. It was wonderful that they complied.

As for nursing, I nursed as soon as he was born as I already had my colostrum/milk come in. Our birth plan clearly stated no bottles/formula or water and therefore we were never asked or offered any of these things.

The staff was very considerate of our wishes and tried to comply and find me alternatives to make the experience positive for us. The only thing that I absolutely hated was when they had to prick his heel to collect blood for tests. The only good part about this was that they let me hold him while this happened. I continued to nurse him but he was still pretty upset so we could have done without it.

One thing I would recommend to all mothers going through a cesarean is that don’t be afraid to ask and communicate how you want your experience to be. The staff at Women’s is very accommodating and I am sure if thy can’t fulfill your request as is they will find an alternative.

Good luck to all you momma’s out there and happy birthing.

Thank you, my friend, for sharing your story!
You will not believe how many women you have impacted by doing so!
You are a beautiful and brave woman!!!
(Obviously, these are stock pictures not of my friend.)

Epidurals and Cesareans

I found this interview with Dr. Aaron Caughey, by Kate Fillion, enlightening as well as fascinating.  If you are considering using an epidural, I strongly encourage you to read this!!!

Here are a couple of excerpts from this interview:

Dr. Caughey says, “The epidural slows labour down. Many times, in the first stage, after an epidural you’ll see a decrease in the rate of contractions. In the second stage it’s blockading your nerves, so you have less motor strength and can’t push as hard.”

Q: Is there an incentive for a physician to order a C-section even if it’s the woman’s first pregnancy?

A: The physician doesn’t make that much more for a Caesarean delivery, about 10 per cent more in the U.S. For the physician, the main incentive is related to time and convenience. If I’m on call all weekend, and I’ve got somebody in labour who’s been six centimetres dilated for a couple of hours and it’s 5 p.m. on a Friday—well, if I do a C-section now, I might get to leave the hospital to see my family. If I give her two more hours, and she dilates further, that still doesn’t mean she’s ready to deliver. It could be midnight before she’s completely dilated, and then she could push for three or four hours, and at the end, I’m paid about the same as if I’d just done the C-section 12 hours earlier.

Dr. Aaron Caughey on labour and how epidurals changed childbirth…a must read!!!